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Learning from Mistakes

Mistakes are inevitable. We’re only human, anyway. Many mistakes are harmless while others are serious and may lead to serious disruption. Mistakes can cost you relationships or even your job. The latest study on mistakes reveals that an average person makes 118 mistakes in a year. Chances are high that you have probably committed a mistake this week. It is therefore imperative that you know how to make the best out of your mistakes. This is because making mistakes is a critical process in the path to attaining success. The most successful people are those who can harness and learn from their mistakes. LifeSkills Coaching Consultants programs can help you learn from your mistakes and be the best  version of whoever you are.

Admit that you’re Wrong

At LifeSkills Coaching Consultants, we believe that the first step to learning from your errors is recognizing the mistakes you make. Many a time, we are tempted to blame the system or the circumstances that led to the mistake. This can be done deliberately or unknowingly. It is, true that there are moments when certain conditions lead us to commit a mistake. When such is the case, then we can be sure that such situations might recur if the circumstance is not removed. To avoid making the same mistake over and over again, it is vital to find out if similar mistakes are being repeated. It would also be good if one found out if certain circumstances that are labeled as being unusual occur frequently. It is also significant to reflect on the presence or absence of particular actions to aid in determining if the mistake was personal, or if someone else was at fault. At the end of it all recognize that you made a mistake.

Find Out the Root of the Mistake

After knowing that you made a mistake, it is important to determine the particular action that was a mistake or what led to the mistake. At LifeSkills Coaching Consultants, we believe that bad habits are the major causes of simple mistakes. For example, you may overbook the calendar thus missing a necessary appointment. There can also be situations when you decide to multitask, and as a result, you fail to pay great attention to conversations. This could lead to errors in communication. It is therefore critical that you take into consideration all the factors that might lead you into a mistake. In conversations, avoid being careless as you speak. You should also avoid responding too quickly in interviews and instead seek clarification on questions as this would allow you to develop more appropriate responses. Lastly, considering both the narrow and the wide picture when finding what went wrong is critical for learning from the mistake.

Find out the problem in your thinking.

If you know what was supposed to happen and why it ought to have happened, then it becomes easy to realize what went wrong. Irrespective of what you’re doing, always have the goal at the back of your mind. Look critically at the strategy, plans as well as the execution to analyze the current situation as well as find out what occurred to hinder you from achieving your goals. It is useful to ask yourself questions like whether the goals you had were attainable or even if there are mistakes that were made during the goal-setting process. It is also critical to assess whether your assumptions on your capabilities as well as the challenges were accurate. Moreover, check whether the strategies you had made sense,  considering the goals and the circumstances. At LifeSkills Coaching Consultants, we also encourage people to assess whether they made mistakes when crafting their plans. In situations where one is working with a team, it is also significant to find out whether the team, friends, or colleagues followed the plan to the letter. These help in narrowing down where the mistake originated from.

Watch Out for Part 2 on How to Learn from Your Mistakes and how LifeSkills Coaching Consultants will help you plan to overcome intrinsic personal barriers so that you arrive at your desired destination.

Learning from Mistakes 2

At LifeSkills Coaching Consultants we are interested in seeing you become the best you can be at whatever you set yourself to do. In the previous issue, we talked about three elements that are instrumental in helping you learn from mistakes. The first element was admitting that you are wrong. The second one was finding out the cause of the mistake and lastly realizing the problem in your thinking. This second issue continues  discussing some other points you need to be wary of. In the end, we will also enumerate how LifeSkills Coaching Consultants can help you learn from your mistakes and become a better person.

Be real in Judging Yourself

It is vital to always have an objective view when evaluating yourself. Review the decision you made while putting consideration to the information that you had at that particular moment. Carefully look at your strengths and weaknesses. You should also be honest about whether you could have avoided the mistakes that you made. Being objective and honest about yourself will help you in seeing what you ought to have done in the first place. You should however remember that you do not need to make a public confession of your mistakes to learn from them. You should also remember that being objective doesn’t mean labelling yourself as a failure. Being open about your mistakes is however key as it puts you in a situation where you are likely to correct yourself in future.

Study and Talk to Experts

Conduct studies to find out how people have dealt with situations like yours. It is difficult to find exact answers but you can always be sure to find options that can you brainstorm and come up with ideas pertaining to your scenario. Studying can even involve talking to others about the challenges that you are going through. The ‘others’ in this case can be LifeSkills Coaching Consultants, because we have highly experienced Life Coaches. The Life Coach can help you review the mistake which will act as a valuable insight in your path to becoming the best version of you. You should however be wary of people who issue a one-size-fits-all which will not help you. A professional coach listens to you express yourself on what has worked and what hasn’t worked and allows you to derive the necessary learnings from the self understanding that comes form your own review of the situation.

Application

After studying or engaging with an expert, such as coaches from LifeSkills Coaching Consultants, it is now time to put to practice what you have learned. You should be ready to try the newer approaches while implementing the recommendations given thus far. Fix one thing as you continue to make adjustments in other areas. Have a look at the results. Realize what happens when you make a mistake and when you take the right actions. Being successful gives you the motivation to be objective with your future plans. Remember that you will never stop mistakes. The most important part is that mistakes will no longer stop you. You will always be turning your mistakes into great life lessons.

Why LifeSkills Coaching Consultants?

LifeSkills Coaching helps you articulate your vision, interrogate your motivation and create strategies for achieving that vision, while planning to overcome intrinsic personal barriers so that you arrive at your desired destination. Through a series of guided conversations, we will help you get unstuck.  We have the following programs that are aimed at impacting you differently.

You may send your enquiries to  jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke.